At the same time she worked in elementary schools, organizing theatrical activities. Her most heartfelt achievement, however, has been the creation of a drama group, composed of blind people. She lives in the famous town of Athens with her two sons, her —original- husband! Convert currency. Add to Basket. Book Description Kate Papas, Condition: Brand New.
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To this day, the thought of divorce crosses my mind every few days. I just read your comment to a post about reasons to not marry a foreign and I could relate to you.
I am Brazilian Japanese, was born and raised in Brazil and my asian roots are very strong. I am in a long relationship with my Swedish boyfriend and i do think he is the one. My problem is that i went to visit his family in Sweden just recently. Here in Brazil I live in a traditional Okinawan neighborhood and so much close to the culture of my relatives hometown in Japan. I missed this when i was in Sweden for 3 weeks. Not just being far from my family, but not having the community around and all the traditions, I felt very homesick and worried about my future if I move to Sweden.
I was just wondering how is your relationship going with your foreign partner. How diffucult it is. If it is working or you really gave up. Corey and all the people who have posted comments have made some excellent points here. This situation led me to grow up in Puerto Rico, Denmark, and the United States during the first twenty-three years of my life. I have witnessed every one of the ten points that Corey raises in the post except for 7 if it ever was an issue it was always kept from the kids.
For instance, for my Danish father, Christmas always meant a quiet celebration with snow, rain, and candles in the window, so for him, Christmas in Puerto Rico — where it is hot and celebrations last a month and are rather noisy and loud — never truly felt the same.
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For my mother, the taciturn and distant Scandinavian disposition was cold, impersonal, and unfriendly. Both of my parents came from tight-knit families, so constantly being far from one side of the family was difficult, and as a result I never formed close relationships with my grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins and to this day I still feel shy around them. Nevertheless, I think certain elements can affect the success of an international marriage. For instance, upon moving to the United States, neither my father nor my mother had any relatives in the country, which was a departure from having previously lived in Puerto Rico and Denmark.
I also believe that humility is very important, especially in learning the local language. For instance, my father was not afraid to look silly in stores in Puerto Rico, and if he could not communicate in Spanish, he would resort to sign language, funny faces, etc.
It generated laughs and blushes from me , but it worked for him. I also think that another key element is trying to maintain traditions from both sides of the family in the home, even in a modified form. International marriages also have important consequences for the children of such relationships. First and foremost, there can be strong identity issues. For instance, my Puerto Rican family always viewed me as Danish, but the Danes swore that I was not truly one of them because fifty percent of me came from Latin America. The most interesting aspect is how each couple chooses to go about addressing these issues.
I know what you mean by identity issues. I myself am a half German half Dutch that lived in The Netherlands all my live but because my German mother did all of my upbringing i felt like a stranger in the Dutch culture, even when the Dutch and German cultures are not that differand if you compare it to other cultures all over the world. I did not know why i felt differand for a long time Also in my case the Dutch familie sayed i am German and the German familie feels that i am Dutch.
I vowed to never do this to my children but… now i am married to an Ethiopian. I dont have children jet but i feel sorry for them if i think of having children even when i know that my husband will be an amazing father to them. Not growing up with expanded familie can be hard to, expressly when you see that grandparents feel more comfortable around those grandchildren that they see the whole year. Ofcaurse they have a better bond with them but it still hurts sometimes. An other problem will be the languish of our children… I am used to use both German and Dutch at home because of that somethings are better told in one of the two.
And my husband ofcause wishes to be able to talk Amhairc with them but they will also need to learn Englisch. I have been thinking about choosing between German and Dutch but than i will not be able to express myself fully to them. I think this post serves as an example that international marriages can produce well adjusted, thoughtful and intelligent children. Thanks for the post.
He came to the US for aviation school 2 years ago. Otherwise he has to move back to germany. Its very unlikely our familes will both attend our wedding because planes tickets are so expensive. However That is only one day in our life together. My sweet German sauerkraut took me to germany to meet his wonderful family and travel his country last summer and a surprise trip home with him for Christmas!
I like what the kiwi said we live a hard but intresting life. You could celebrate your marriage two times like i did. That is why we decided to celebrate in Ethiopia with his familie and friends and than again in Europa. Americans, at least those not from the larger and more multicultural cities, tend to be very provincial. With all the pressure for flag-waving church-going conformity, any American typically would like to watch the same sitcoms, eat the same fast food, and do the same things overall as every other American.
Why then do so many marry foreigners? Is it out of a suddenly-found cosmopolitan or inclusive attitude that pops up in enlightened individuals, or is the key element simple desperation?
For more thoughts on this topic, check out… http: Me from Prague , my wife from Istanbul and our baby-girl living in Prague. All points listed up there are truth.
Even more complicated situations — so many questions, many of them can not be answered or solved. Many times I have asked myself, if this is really worth it. After nine years of chess everything worked out. And after all we went through I feel like it is some joke. It is my brother, which lives just next door.
He used to be kind of guy, which lived rebel life — drinking and plenty of different girls — some of them drunk been even knocking at our doors. Yet, he have suddenly changed, found himself some girl and after months she have got pregnant with him and now he would like to make big line behind his previous life. He it is still that kind of way ignorant, though it is in somehow acceptable — noone is perfect. And that is where comes another problem, whenever I try to speak with my brother — there is problem, but if I try to speak to his girlfriend — there is fire on the roof.
So I am speaking time to time once a month or so with them and keep Eye on my nephew — which will never really see his uncle. And this is some big heart-breaking issue, which I do not really know how to take care of. I love my wife, yet I know she is very ignorant in some things.
There is no middle way at this point.